Battle with Alcoholism: The Power of Transmuting Pain into Purpose

Kohdi Rayne
3 min readMar 20, 2024

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I have always been plagued by a deep social anxiety. Even before my official diagnosis as a high-functioning alcoholic, that anxiety served as the key to unlocking my self-destructive tendencies.

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My descent into alcoholism was not an abrupt freefall; rather, it was a gradual decline fueled by the fear and trepidation of facing life without my numbing companion. This fear of discovery persisted when, amidst the throes of liver failure, I received an additional diagnosis of ADHD.

I found myself lacking someone to confide in about these internal upheavals; my influences, though well-meaning, only fed into my addictions and exacerbated the turmoil within me.

My existence became entangled with fears, paranoias, and predictions of impending doom — all symptoms stemming from an overactive ADHD brain. Alcohol became my crutch; it provided temporary relief from the incessant thoughts that fueled my anxiety. It was easier to lose myself in the bottle than confront the challenges I had been avoiding for so long.

The fear had become deeply ingrained within me to such an extent that sobriety itself seemed dangerous. I feared that without alcohol, all the issues I had suppressed would be exposed and that I would be ill-equipped to handle life’s realities without this liquid courage.

The wake-up call arrived when my addiction began wreaking havoc on my health. As withdrawal symptoms took hold and I started vomiting blood while experiencing heart failure and liver damage, the magnitude of my self-destruction became clear to me. What I had once believed to be a solution for alleviating anxiety turned out to be a poison slowly seeping through every aspect of my life.

It was during those 18 grueling months in recovery — marked by pain and suffering — that I learned a crucial lesson: fear is not real, despite how intensely it may feel at times. The anxiety and fear that had once paralyzed me presented two options: to remain stagnant or to harness this emotional turmoil and channel it towards my healing. I chose the latter, referring to this redirection of energy as “struggling forward.”

Now, seven years sober, my anxiety still exists, but its manifestation has transformed. Once a trigger for my drinking, it now drives me towards healthier habits — like reaching for a glass of water instead. This is what I refer to as the transmutation of energy — repurposing pain into motivation and purpose.

Sobriety does not entail eradicating fear and anxiety; rather, it involves learning to navigate through them and redirecting that energy towards living a healthier and more purposeful life.

In my journey towards sobriety, I have discovered valuable resources that have aided me along the way. Beyond Sober (www.beyondsober.org) provides essential support for individuals struggling with alcoholism, offering guidance and assistance on the path to recovery.

Similarly, Sober Not Sober is an excellent platform that utilizes personal experiences to guide others on their own journey towards sobriety.

This battle with alcoholism has been far from easy; it has demanded immense strength, resilience, and self-reflection. However, by transmuting the pain inflicted by addiction into purposeful action towards healing oneself — struggling forward — one can reclaim their life from the grips of alcoholism.

K O H D I | Beyond Sober

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Kohdi Rayne
Kohdi Rayne

Written by Kohdi Rayne

I’m an ex-alcoholic and liver failure survivor actively helping the world recover from toxic habits and design a life they love to live.