Beyond Sober’s Official 6-Step Recovery Guide For Overcoming Addiction
To escape this prison of discomfort, you need to narrow your attention to just six aspects, rather than twelve.
Reprogramming the mind to be open to new possibilities on a neurological level can be accomplished by concentrating on these six areas.
I’m not a trained medical professional, so I can’t guarantee that this will work for everyone. Please do so at your own peril. I do not accept any responsibility for your results, regardless of how positive or negative they may be, and this is only meant to serve as a guide for determining whether or not this particular approach is appropriate.
There is an unsettling belief that “Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic” applies to people forever. The unfortunate result of this is that recovering alcoholics end up thinking of themselves as “forever broken.”
That by itself is enough to get you to raise their glass and punish themselves with more alcohol.
When there is a future that is packed full of happiness, success, and abundance as part of the process, it is inevitable that sobriety will result.
Let’s begin.
ACCEPT IT RIGHT NOW!
HOW YOU FEEL CHANGES NOTHING ABOUT THE TRUTH
There is no point in fighting the truth about how much you’re drinking because regardless of how you feel about your drinking, the fact remains that you are drinking far too much.
The act of resisting something results in discomfort.
What do alcoholics do when they are feeling uneasy about something? They are drinking the discomfort away.
Every alcoholic and anyone who believes they are struggling with alcoholism is completely aware, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that they are drinking excessively and putting their health in jeopardy.
Attempting to combat that sensation and fight the feeling will only provide you with an additional justification to reach for the bottle.
Therefore, it is imperative that they acknowledge the scientific consensus at some point, regardless of how deep you go down the rabbit hole.
You will stop giving a fuck about your relationship with alcohol as soon as you accept it, and the sooner you do that, the better.
EVERYTHING IS HABIT
HABITS CAN BE CHANGED
Ninety percent of everything you do in your life can be attributed to habits.
This means that you have developed a sequence of thoughts and actions that brings about the results that you experience.
It makes no difference in the context in which it is used.
As I type this message, I am putting into practice the first habit, which is to correctly diagnose the issue.
1. Developing a plan for the solution
2. Providing the answer to the problem
3. Discussion regarding the application of the solution
Since I started my road to recovery, I have dedicated each day to working on this skill, and I am now considered to be among the best.
I could be doing anything in the world right now, but I’m still going to deliver this to you.
Why in the world would I do that? Because I’ve made it a point to make a habit of putting other people’s needs before my own from a healthy place and not a place of sacrifice.
DEVELOP HEALTHY HABITS
YOUR VERY FUTURE IS DEPENDENT ON IT
Everything is a matter of routine. EVERYTHING!
I think of people first in exactly the same way that you may think about the bottle first, which is to say that I think of health and happiness of others first.
It’s just a matter of practice.
The more you practice something, the better you will become at it. That includes not engaging in practice at all.
Being good at not practicing feels like procrastination.
You will eventually become the best there is at it.
You may have a lot of practice putting their preoccupation with the bottle ahead of their concerns about your wellbeing and happiness.
It is probably difficult for you to simply stop drinking because the habit has become so deeply ingrained in your mind as a result of the choices you make on a regular basis and the emotional connection it fosters.
Because you have been practicing for such a long time, you will always think about the bottle, even if you do not worry about going through withdrawals.
It is time to gradually transition from an emotional connection with alcohol to a connection with water.
This process is referred to as ‘reprogramming’.
The essence of life is found in water. Both consuming too much and not enough can be fatal.
You need to get into the habit of drinking water whenever you have the urge to drink alcohol.
· Good day? Drink water.
· Bad day? Drink water.
· Are you bored? Drink water.
· Excited? Drink water.
· Are You Nervous? Drink water.
· Are You Afraid? Drink water.
· Happy? Drink water.
· Sad? Drink water.
· Do you need some water? Drink water.
Over the course of time, you will have developed a few skills that are particularly important:
1. The beneficial practice of drinking water whenever you have an urge to drink alcohol.
2. An emotional connection with the fact that you are starting to feel better about yourself.
3. An enticing event to look forward to in the future (Progress)
Keep in mind that you can become skilled at anything you practice, and at this point(if you’re reading this), you have practiced caring about your health as little as possible.
Reminder: your body doesn’t need you, you need your body.
It has been there for you through everything that you have ever been through, and you are doomed to remain with it until the day that you pass away.
If it were a person, it would have long since abandoned you by this point.
Just give it some of your positive attention for a while and magic will happen.
THE STORY YOU TELL YOURSELF IS KILLING YOU
REPLAYING THE PAST = DEATH
No matter how much you dwell on our history, the traumatic experiences you’ve had, or the hurt you feel, nothing will ever change. NOTHING! Ever!
Do you not believe that it would have changed by now if it were going to change in the future?
Put an end to torturing yourself over the actions of other people.
Giving all the energy you don’t have to the things you can’t control is only giving you a reason to remember how alcohol has been there for you when you were at your lowest.
The past is why you picked up the bottle in the first place.
Since day one, alcohol has been working behind the scenes to undermine you.
By concentrating on the nonsense, you are providing yourself with yet another excuse to run back into the arms of the “friend” who has been betraying you.
ALCOHOL!
“HELL NO” TO THAT GUY! Not anymore!
Alcohol is a narcissist, and they hope you will struggle so that they can step into the role of savior once more.
FOCUS ON YOUR FUTURE & ONLY DO WHAT YOU LOVE
It isn’t because you’re working on your history that you’re getting sober.
Because you are fixating entirely on the future, you are progressing to an extremely sober state.
It is absolutely undeniable evidence that you care about something if you are reading this sentence.
What do you love?
What do you love to do?
What is it that you ENJOY doing? (if you say “dinking,” that means that alcohol is your personality now)
Take a few moments to sit down with a piece of paper and a pen and write down your thoughts on what constitutes happiness for you.
Because this is the only thing that matters at this point and you’re going to be concentrating on for the time being.
You need to have the clearest picture possible of what it means to be happy and successful.
The instant that you start thinking about that jerk and the nonsense that they put you through is the moment that you pull out that piece of paper and choose ONE of those things to focus your attention and energy on.
Every time you start giving the remaining amount of energy you have to the sh*t you have no control over, you take away even more potential for happiness in the future.
You just don’t have the strength for that right now.
You DON’T WANT to use your energy on something like that.
You are getting beyond sober, and you are aware of everything that you need to do moving forward. Get started with it!
DON’T FUCKING STOP!
YOU’RE UNSTOPPABLE
I am an international best-selling author, a fitness anomaly, the owner of three businesses, fifteen business partners, nine brands, a multi-national social media influencer, I collaborate with millionaires and billionaires, have been written about in medical journals, been on more podcasts than I can count, now on over 300 streaming networks for my program Beyond Sober, and the list continues…
Do you really believe that I about any of that?
Honestly? NO! I don’t care; I haven’t even reached the age of 38 yet, and all that matters to me is that I’m happy and at peace with who I am.
Because I was able to find happiness by following the steps outlined above, I was able to overcome my addiction to alcohol and am now helping others to do the same with Beyond Sober.
I was unable to save anything I earned in my 16 years of drinking at high-risk…
My home, my car, my job, my friends, my income, my profession, and then finally my health. I lost it all.
The same strategy that helped me survive liver failure and turn the world upside down was also the key to my success in becoming unstoppable and a potent force that cannot be ignored.
When I first started out, I had fewer resources than you do now.
You are already in a better position than I was because you’re not dying, you’re not dead, and you’re reading this.
You and I are identical in every way and the only difference is I simply have more practice.
GET STARTED RIGHT AWAY AND DON’T YOU DARE STOP!
Kohdi Rayne | Beyond Sober
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Kohdi, who drank heavily for 24 years, eventually suffered liver failure.
He had been a famous DJ for 16 years before he finally succumbed to alcoholism.
On July 11, 2017, he awoke to find his skin and eyes had turned a vivid yellow, marking the beginning of the end of his life.
Not long after the EMTs arrived, he began vomiting blood.
Urgent surgery was performed to close off the two veins in his throat that were filling his stomach with blood.
Was twice admitted to the intensive care unit because of a cardiac arrest. He would then spend the next 250 hours in a state of extreme withdrawal from which survival was not anticipated.
Kohdi was able to pull through the pain and extreme trauma he endured, but he lost over 60 pounds, his mobility, and had to start his second chance at life with almost nothing.
It took 18 months for him to function normally again
For the next four years, he concentrates on getting in shape, learning new skills, and making himself a better person so that he can live a life that matters.
He’s not just a local sensation; he’s a national phenomenon on the social media scene as well.
