Breaking Up With Our Toxic Ex: Finding Real Love Through Sobriety

Kohdi Rayne
2 min readFeb 21, 2023


Hey there sober friends, let’s talk about our favorite toxic ex: alcohol.

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You know, the one that always makes us feel loved, even on our darkest days when we feel like nobody loves us.

It’s kind of like a warm hug from the inside out, but without the actual human connection.

We turn to alcohol because we’re hoping to feel loved, even if it’s just for a few hours.

It’s like the all-immersive experience that makes us feel like we’re finally getting what we deserve.

But let’s be honest, that feeling is just an illusion. It’s like when you think you’re in love with someone, but really it’s just the tequila talking.

We’ll settle for fake love because we convince ourselves that we don’t deserve the real thing.

It’s like we’re stuck in a waiting game, hoping for the real thing but settling for the instant gratification of alcohol.

We’re willing to suffer just to feel like we matter, but in reality, we’re just confusing love with self-destruction.

Love is a state of being, an energetic force that flows through us even when we’re not drunk off our butts.

Our ability to love while drinking is only as true as our ability to love ourselves.

So, let’s be honest, if the only way we know how to love ourselves is through alcohol, we’ve got a problem.

It’s time to be a little selfish and take a step back from the poison.

It’s time to let the pain we’re drinking through forge the tools we need to love ourselves for who we truly are.

It’s not about being perfect, it’s about accepting ourselves and treating ourselves with kindness and respect.

Because let’s be real, we deserve real love, not just the illusion of it.

So, my sober friends, one less drink is one more step towards real love.

It’s time to say goodbye to our toxic ex and hello to a healthier relationship with ourselves.

Trust me, it’s so much better than a tequila-fueled one-night stand.

Kohdi | Beyond Sober



Kohdi Rayne

I’m an ex-alcoholic and liver failure survivor actively helping the world recover from toxic habits and design a life they love to live.