Uncorked Confidence: Breaking the Cycle of Alcohol Dependence

Kohdi Rayne
2 min readFeb 8, 2023

So, let’s talk about the fine line between confidence and delusion, and how alcohol can be like a shady best friend who makes you feel like a boss, even though you have no clue what’s going on.

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You know, you’ve probably been in a situation where you feel like you’ve got it all together and those nagging thoughts like, “Everyone’s staring at my mole” or “My shirt feels weird and everyone can tell,” just seem to disappear.

But what’s the point of pretending to have it all figured out, when you can just own your insecurities and let the chips fall where they may?

That’s right, real confidence isn’t about hiding your problems or acting like that booger in your nose doesn’t exist.

It’s about embracing your imperfections and being comfortable with who you are.

Alcohol is like a magic trick that makes us forget about our insecurities, but it’s just an illusion.

You’re not confident, you’re just not paying attention to the things that matter.

And here’s the thing, everyone else is just as insecure as you are and using alcohol for the same reason.

They’re just as nervous and hoping you don’t notice their flaws.

Think about it, how many times have you been in a group of people and no one notices the thing you were so obsessed with?

That’s because everyone is so focused on their own insecurities, they don’t have time to worry about yours.

And that’s where real confidence comes in.

When you stop worrying about what other people think and just be yourself, that’s when the magic happens.

You’ll step into a space of authenticity where it doesn’t matter if you have food on your face because you’re rocking it with confidence.

You know what I mean, the feeling you get when you’re drunk, you can master when you’re sober.

And the more you work on it when you’re sober, the better the experience will be when you’re drinking.

Because the real goal of sobriety is to develop a healthier relationship with alcohol and sometimes that relationship is no relationship at all.

Alcohol is meant to add value to your life, not make you someone you’re not.

Sure, it can help you tap into parts of yourself that you wish were more active, but over time, you’ll start to feel less confident without it.

And that’s not the goal.

So, let’s become confident in our insecurities, and give ourselves permission to be uncomfortable.

Because that’s when we become comfortable with confidence.

-Kohdi | Beyond Sober



Kohdi Rayne

I’m an ex-alcoholic and liver failure survivor actively helping the world recover from toxic habits and design a life they love to live.