Why Sobriety & Self-Love is Better Than a Bottomless Mimosa Brunch

Kohdi Rayne
3 min readFeb 2, 2023

Well, well, well, it's time to talk about taking care of ourselves, or as I like to call it, "the adult version of playing with Legos.”

Photo by Luiz Felipe on Unsplash

I mean, who doesn't love putting themselves together piece by piece, just like a puzzle, but with the satisfaction of seeing a picture of your healthier self when you're done?

But let's not get sidetracked, let's talk about why self-care and self-love are important for our mental, emotional, and physical health.


You know, as much as we all want to pretend that life is a never-ending game of Monopoly, with everyone just waiting to yell "bankrupt!" and take all our pieces, the truth is that life can be tough.

I mean, seriously, have you tried to play Monopoly with a bunch of drunk people?

It's like trying to solve a Rubik's Cube with one hand tied behind your back.

But the good news is that we have the power to control our own reactions to these tough times.

And the even better news is that by taking care of ourselves, we can improve our mental and emotional state, which can have a positive impact on those around us.

Now, let's get a little science-y.

You see, our brain is like a rubber band, it can stretch and change, which is called neuroplasticity.

So, by doing things like exercising, eating healthy, and practicing mindfulness, we can actually make our brains better at regulating our emotions and thoughts.

And you don’t you don’t have to be completely sober for this to work.

And you know what's even better than that?

Reducing stress.

I mean, let's be real, stress is the ultimate party crasher.

It's always showing up uninvited and ruining all the fun.

But the good news is that by practicing self-care, we can keep stress from ruining our party.

My point, taking care of ourselves is crucial for our well-being.

Plus, it’s not like you have to be a professional caregiver to practice caring about yourself.

By prioritizing our own health, we are better equipped to handle life's ups and downs, and even spread positive energy to those around us.

I mean, who wouldn't want to be a walking ray of sunshine, just like a human version of a happy little blue bird from a Disney movie?

Or, the most clear-headed person at the party, you know, the one drinking juice instead of cocktails and still being able to remember every moment of the night?

So, let's take care of ourselves and be the best versions that we can be.

And remember, self-care isn't just important, it's a requirement.

It leads us to long-term sobriety and contentment in life.

It's kind of like getting a brand-new pair of shoes.

At first, they're all stiff and uncomfortable, but after a few wears, they mold to your feet, and suddenly you're walking on clouds.

That's what self-care and self-love does.

They mold you into the best version of yourself.

Not just the person with the least amount of issues in every room.

Last but not least, let’s talk about the power of positive energy.

It’s like a game of “telephone,” but instead of whispering secrets, you’re whispering positivity and kindness.

The more you spread it, the more it grows, and the more people it reaches.

So, by prioritizing self-care and self-love, we can not only improve our own lives, but also the lives of those around us.

And let’s be real, what’s better than that?

Being able to make someone else’s day just by being yourself?

It’s like being a sobriety superhero, but instead of saving the world, you’re just saving your own corner of it.

PS: Self-Love isn’t loving on yourself, it’s loving yourself exactly as your are, regardless of your struggles.

-Kohdi | Beyond Sober



Kohdi Rayne

I’m an ex-alcoholic and liver failure survivor actively helping the world recover from toxic habits and design a life they love to live.